I have a friend who is a very good and decent person…and I can’t help but feel bad for my friend. After my friend left my house recently, someone else I know saw my friend in a store picking up a few things, This person told me my friend, “looked incredibly sad.”
My friend didn’t give that impression when they were at my house, but knowing their very tough situation, it’s plausible. This friend deserves better, but most of the decisions and choices my friend has made has led to where this person is now – as it has for most of us.
How do you help a person who makes a lot of poor choices? Propping them up only enables them more than helps them. It comes down to the parable of showing them how to fish instead of just handing them one. But where do you start when they have a negative mindset and blame circumstances instead of the choices they make?